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Dream From Course Workbook

Example Dream From Course Workbook

Category:

Relationships

Dreamer:

Female 26.

Comments:

I quit my job of 2 years yesterday to move onto a part time job and research the possibility of going back to school to learn something I love. I am living with my boyfriend of two years and we have a very close respective loving relationship. I have always been financially independent but have never been happy at my jobs. I do not fear that my boyfriend will be unfaithful. Here is the dream I had last night. It was quite disturbing

Title:

Alone
 

Dream: Alone

I was at a party with my boyfriend, at at an old house my grandparents lived in until I was 5. I came into the room and saw some girl sitting on his lap. Then a flash to the girl, very blond, sitting on the couch next to him holding his hand. They both just glared at me, I glared back at my boyfriend. Then flash to my other grandmother's apartment in the same town and I am there alone. Then my boyfriend and this very blond girl and her friend are climbing over the balcony to get into the apt. I let them in. And he is talking about how he doesn’t love me and never has been happy and she makes him happy. This whole time, this short sorta podgy very blond girl with a pink ski hat on is clinging to him very sexually and……my teeth start to fall out. Literally fall out of my head into my hand. I can’t catch them fast enough. They are overflowing into my hand. Very clean teeth, no blood not really any pain. Just teeth, falling and falling (mostly from the right rear side). I’m holding out my hand to show my boyfriend but he doesn’t care. He just goes on and on and I can’t really understand his words but it is all about how he’s leaving me. Then flash to calling his mom on the phone (we are not that close but like each other a lot) because I don’t know who else to call about my teeth and about what just happened with my boyfriend. I think she says something about that being his personality and sorta defending him, but I can’t remember that clearly. Then flash to riding on a train, I think, or subway but am in a compartment alone.

That's all. It was horrible really.


Interpretation

The dream is addressing your fear of going through life alone and without kids. It is saying that your relationship is not as strong as you like to think. The personal issue of children needs to be resolved. Realize that you are carrying around some old fashioned ideas about relationships here. Dealing with issues around your mother's side will greatly help - age 5 in particular. Make sure your love is coming from the heart. Do something like cutting the ties. I will be enhancing my pages on this therapy significantly in the near future. It is not a difficult therapy to do and you can do it on your own. You'll find you are a completely different person at the end of it.

Now I'll explain how I get this meaning from the dream.

The subject matter is your relationship because it starts of with you and your partner. It starts with you in an old house so this indicates influence from the past. Fortunately you pinpoint the age 5 so the dream is bringing you back to when you were 5. This is to help you understand where your feelings in this matter come from. You also mention your grandparents. Break this up into grand and parents and the dream is saying that you think you and your boyfriend would make grand parents.

Now to follow the rest of the dream go back to age 5 and look at it again. See your boyfriend as himself and the women are actors demonstrating negative aspects you picked up from your mother. This is partly due to your parents relationship that you witnessed as a child and is influencing you now. We tend to copy our parents traits so while I say this is about your mother and father you need to ask yourself to what degree did you copy their negative traits. Also remember that dreams exaggerate in order to maximise the effect.

Going back to childhood age 5, you don't describe a good picture. Both parents are just glaring at you and you find yourself alone. This and the blond indicates a lack of tolerance on your mother's side and a rejection on your dad's. The pink hat also indicates that you didn't bond with mother so this will not help you when it comes to your relationships. We learn how to love from mother. A falling down here causes us to cling onto others in relationships.  

We have already seen the idea of parenting but here is the main one. Animals carry their young around with their teeth so losing teeth in a dream indicates losing the ability to have children. This is not necessarily physical. If you want kids but your partner does not you can have this symbol appear. Whatever it is from, this is causing you pain in your life. The teeth are falling out from the right rear side so this indicates a male influence from the past. You are trying to tell your boyfriend about the problem and you find he doesn't care. You don't understand his reasons. This communication problem is being linked to your mother (by the mother on the phone).

Lastly, you are on a train alone. This indicates your life journey and again the feeling / fear of being alone on your journey.

In summary, the dream is saying that your relationship is not as strong as you like to think. The personal issue of children needs to be resolved. Realize that you are carrying around some old fashioned ideas about relationships here. Dealing with issues around your mother's side will greatly help - age 5 in particular. Make sure your love is coming from the heart. Do something like cutting the ties. I will be enhancing my pages on this therapy significantly in the near future. It is not a difficult therapy to do and you can do it on your own. You'll find you are a completely different person at the end of it.


Dreamer's Comment on the Interpretation

First: I do have very deep issues with my mother. You suggest they are at age five; however, this is near the time when they actually BEGAN. Or maybe this is when I can actually start to remember them. You suggest cutting ties and being sure my love is from the heart. Well, I did cut ties ten years ago when I was 16. I have not seen or spoken to her since as I moved 3000 miles away from her. You are right on when you say that my relationship with her is/will affect my feelings/abilities to have children. I am in the time of my life where children are a possibility and are talked about frequently. I never ever wanted children until I met my current boyfriend. He wants a house full of them. I know that I will not be able to be a healthy wife or, especially, parent until I resolve these issues surrounding my mother.

You say that breaking grandparents up suggests I feel we will make "grand" parents. Actually, I feel HE will make a great parent. I'm afraid I will fail horribly.

I am afraid I have picked up my mother's negative traits. That is very true. I only see her as having negative traits, really, and can think of nothing nice to say about her. My father I don't know very well, they divorced when I was 8. But I hold no negative feelings towards him. Consciously, anyway.

My mother was always glaring at me, you're right. When I picture her in my mind, no matter what age I am, that is how I see her face. Glaring. My mother and I never bonded, as you say and until my current relationship, I did not have the slightest idea of how to love someone. I cut myself off at age 16 and became very harsh and promiscuous and bitter. Only now am I trying to dissolve those things. And I think I am clinging to this relationship because I truly feel loved and accepted, with talk of the future.

The inability to have children issue is a big one, and I can see now how you have interpreted that from my dream. The more I want marriage and the more we discuss it, the more afraid I become deep down. Afraid it will be a disaster like my family and I feel desperate to not let that happen. As for the male influence in the past, I can't think of who/what that would be. But the communication problem linked to my mother has hit the nail on the head.

As for the train and spending my life alone, yes...yes...yes. No matter how close I feel to my partner or how much better our relationship becomes each day, somewhere deep down I am afraid it will not last forever. And someday sooner or later I will be that same 16 year old girl fending for herself and shutting out the world, unable to really love anyone.
   

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