Dream From Course Workbook
Example Dream From Course Workbook
Category:
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Relationships |
Dreamer:
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Female 26. |
Comments:
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I quit my job of 2 years yesterday to move onto a part time
job and research the possibility of going back to school to learn something I love. I am
living with my boyfriend of two years and we have a very close respective loving
relationship. I have always been financially independent but have never been happy at my
jobs. I do not fear that my boyfriend will be unfaithful. Here is the dream I had last
night. It was quite disturbing |
Title:
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Alone |
Dream: Alone
I was at a party with my boyfriend, at at an old house my
grandparents lived in until I was 5. I came into the room and saw some girl sitting on his
lap. Then a flash to the girl, very blond, sitting on the couch next to him holding his
hand. They both just glared at me, I glared back at my boyfriend. Then flash to my other
grandmother's apartment in the same town and I am there alone. Then my boyfriend and this
very blond girl and her friend are climbing over the balcony to get into the apt. I let
them in. And he is talking about how he doesnt love me and never has been happy and
she makes him happy. This whole time, this short sorta podgy very blond girl with a pink
ski hat on is clinging to him very sexually and
my teeth start to fall out.
Literally fall out of my head into my hand. I cant catch them fast enough. They are
overflowing into my hand. Very clean teeth, no blood not really any pain. Just teeth,
falling and falling (mostly from the right rear side). Im holding out my hand to
show my boyfriend but he doesnt care. He just goes on and on and I cant really
understand his words but it is all about how hes leaving me. Then flash to calling
his mom on the phone (we are not that close but like each other a lot) because I
dont know who else to call about my teeth and about what just happened with my
boyfriend. I think she says something about that being his personality and sorta defending
him, but I cant remember that clearly. Then flash to riding on a train, I think, or
subway but am in a compartment alone. That's
all. It was horrible really.
Interpretation
The dream is addressing your fear of going through life
alone and without kids. It is saying that your relationship is not as strong as you like
to think. The personal issue of children needs to be resolved. Realize
that you are
carrying around some old fashioned ideas about relationships here. Dealing with issues
around your mother's side will greatly help - age 5 in particular. Make sure your love is
coming from the heart. Do something like cutting the ties. I will be enhancing my pages on
this therapy significantly in the near future. It is not a difficult therapy to do and you
can do it on your own. You'll find you are a completely different person at the end of it. Now I'll explain how I get this meaning from
the dream.
The subject matter is your relationship because it starts of
with you and your partner. It starts with you in an old house so this indicates influence
from the past. Fortunately you pinpoint the age 5 so the dream is bringing you back to
when you were 5. This is to help you understand where your feelings in this matter come
from. You also mention your grandparents. Break this up into grand and parents and the
dream is saying that you think you and your boyfriend would make grand parents.
Now to follow the rest of the dream go back to age 5 and look
at it again. See your boyfriend as himself and the women are actors demonstrating negative
aspects you picked up from your mother. This is partly due to your parents relationship
that you witnessed as a child and is influencing you now. We tend to copy our parents
traits so while I say this is about your mother and father you need to ask yourself to
what degree did you copy their negative traits. Also remember that dreams exaggerate in
order to maximise the effect.
Going back to childhood age 5, you don't describe a good
picture. Both parents are just glaring at you and you find yourself alone. This and the
blond indicates a lack of tolerance on your mother's side and a rejection on your dad's.
The pink hat also indicates that you didn't bond with mother so this will not help you
when it comes to your relationships. We learn how to love from mother. A falling down here
causes us to cling onto others in relationships.
We have already seen the idea of parenting but here is the
main one. Animals carry their young around with their teeth so losing
teeth in a dream
indicates losing the ability to have children. This is not necessarily physical. If you
want kids but your partner does not you can have this symbol appear. Whatever it is from,
this is causing you pain in your life. The teeth are falling out from the right rear side
so this indicates a male influence from the past. You are trying to tell your boyfriend
about the problem and you find he doesn't care. You don't understand his reasons. This
communication problem is being linked to your mother (by the mother on the phone).
Lastly, you are on a train alone. This indicates your life
journey and again the feeling / fear of being alone on your journey.
In summary, the dream is saying that your relationship is not
as strong as you like to think. The personal issue of children needs to be resolved.
Realize that you are carrying around some old fashioned ideas about relationships here.
Dealing with issues around your mother's side will greatly help - age 5 in particular.
Make sure your love is coming from the heart. Do something like cutting the ties. I will
be enhancing my pages on this therapy significantly in the near future. It is not a
difficult therapy to do and you can do it on your own. You'll find you are a completely
different person at the end of it.
Dreamer's Comment on the Interpretation
First: I do have very deep issues with my mother. You
suggest they are at age five; however, this is near the time when they actually BEGAN. Or
maybe this is when I can actually start to remember them. You suggest cutting ties and
being sure my love is from the heart. Well, I did cut ties ten years ago when I was 16. I
have not seen or spoken to her since as I moved 3000 miles away from her. You are right on
when you say that my relationship with her is/will affect my feelings/abilities to have
children. I am in the time of my life where children are a possibility and are talked
about frequently. I never ever wanted children until I met my current boyfriend. He wants
a house full of them. I know that I will not be able to be a healthy wife or, especially,
parent until I resolve these issues surrounding my mother. You say that breaking grandparents up suggests I feel we will make
"grand" parents. Actually, I feel HE will make a great parent. I'm afraid I will
fail horribly.
I am afraid I have picked up my mother's negative traits.
That is very true. I only see her as having negative traits, really, and can think of
nothing nice to say about her. My father I don't know very well, they divorced when I was
8. But I hold no negative feelings towards him. Consciously, anyway.
My mother was always glaring at me, you're right. When I
picture her in my mind, no matter what age I am, that is how I see her face. Glaring. My
mother and I never bonded, as you say and until my current relationship, I did not have
the slightest idea of how to love someone. I cut myself off at age 16 and became very
harsh and promiscuous and bitter. Only now am I trying to dissolve those things. And I
think I am clinging to this relationship because I truly feel loved and accepted, with
talk of the future.
The inability to have children issue is a big one, and I can
see now how you have interpreted that from my dream. The more I want marriage and the more
we discuss it, the more afraid I become deep down. Afraid it will be a disaster like my
family and I feel desperate to not let that happen. As for the male influence in the past,
I can't think of who/what that would be. But the communication problem linked to my mother
has hit the nail on the head.
As for the train and spending my life alone, yes...yes...yes.
No matter how close I feel to my partner or how much better our relationship becomes each
day, somewhere deep down I am afraid it will not last forever. And
someday sooner or later
I will be that same 16 year old girl fending for herself and shutting out the world,
unable to really love anyone.
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